Top 7 Ways to Overcome Overwhelming Darkness
I think we are all feeling an increase in heaviness & tension in the world around us. It can especially be strong during the night or when interacting with loved ones. For many just holding an ordinary conversation with someone can trigger anxiety, overwhelm and a daunting dread.
It makes no sense while it is happening and can show up as a desperate urge to RUN AWAY!
We may notice it has nothing to do with the words that are exchanged because it doesn’t always have to be about conflict. So if it isn’t about the words, drama, or conflict, what is causing this overwhelm?
The prophecy of the Q’eros call this the time of Pachakuti – Earth’s turnover
The Q’eros are the Indigenous peoples from the Peruvian Andes. They are the direct descendants of the Incas. For hundreds of years, the Q’eros Elders have preserved the prophecy of “Pachacuti”, which foretells of a time of great change when Mother Earth will ‘turn over’ in order to restore harmony and end this era of chaos: it will be the death of the wrong way of thinking and being.
What does this look like in everyday life? You may notice it in a few ways such as:
- Old stories resurfacing
- Voices that try to push you away from loved ones
- Inner critic trying to cause extreme self doubt
- Apathy leading to the inability to take care of things especially what you enjoy most. (This leads many to question if they are depressed)
- Feeling exhausted and unable to give anymore
An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life:
“A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.
”It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil–he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”
He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you–and inside every other person, too.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf will win?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”
What Can We Do About It?
1. Know that they are coming up for some acknowledgement and forgiveness
When the stories come up stop and ask, “what has not been forgiven around this?” Allow the answer to come. Then say aloud or silently, “I forgive this person and myself on all levels regarding this situation.” Really feel it and know it is done.
2.Ho’oponopono is an ancient Hawaiian practice of Forgiveness The literal translation is “to put to right; to put in order or shape, correct, revise, adjust, amend, regulate, arrange, rectify, tidy up, make orderly or neat.” meant to cleanse errors in thought, clear old karma, and set right any wrongs that have occurred
It can be used in the moment when dark thoughts and overwhelm is occurring. It can be directed at a person, situation, or group. I have even directed at the dark voice itself.
It can be practiced by simply saying or thinking this simple mantra:
“I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.”
3.Setting boundaries with inner critic
The voice inside our heads is often the biggest and harshest bully. It is very useful to set it straight. Part of taking our power back is changing the direction of our inner dialogue. When we notice it is taking over and we are feeling overwhelmed and helpless, we can have a conversation like this, “I realize you are suffering and but you are not going to push me away from my loved ones and trying to scare me will get you nowhere.” “I am going to stay centered in love with an open heart and I need you to help me find more ways of doing this.”
4.To the one that is suffering, you deserve more love not less
This is a powerful statement for the parts of us that are coming up to be accepted. When you notice overwhelm or fear surfacing. You can take notice of the part that is trying to get your attention. Is the angry tyrant, the terrified child, the arrogant know it all? Notice it and let it know that it deserves more love not less. Pay attention to it without reacting to it’s tantrum. Just have the intention of accepting it back into your circle of friends. Take a minute to acknowledge it.
5.Take one step in the direction of relief
Make a choice by asking yourself which choice feels the most inspiring. If it is to take your dog for a walk instead of cleaning out the garage. Take the walk first. Then, keep following these inspired actions until you are in a state of flowing. It only takes one step to get moving, but a step that inspires you.
6. Go Beyond
When we are overwhelmed we are usually in reaction mode to what is happening around us. By simply saying, “What I want is beyond this” we can get back to who we really are and get out of reactivity. Even saying this can take us into a brief space of peace. Breathe into this.
7.Make filling up a priority
When we are empty, we are more prone to become overwhelmed and vulnerable to the influence of heavy dark energy.
Many individuals will warn you that you can’t go without eating or you’ll go into STARVATION! It can illicit quite a bit of fear. Yet, these same individuals will pay no attention to working themselves into burnout, codependently giving to others until they are sick or ignoring their own needs until they are unable to even get out of bed from sheer exhaustion.
The truth is it is impossible to give anyone anything if we are depleted and empty. At this point, it actually energetically becomes taking from them. Then, we end up exhausting those around us. I have seen it so many times it has become predictable.
Do something different and take time to be quiet and still each morning. Shut everything off and do nothing for a few minutes everyday. You can choose to just sit in nature as well. Just take this time for you. Take this time for your loved ones as well. You will have more to offer them if you do.
The mind may try to convince you there are more important ways to spend your time but this is just the little one inside that feels unworthy. Give it more love not less and sit quietly anyway. Invite your little one to sit with you.
When we turn on the light in a room, the darkness goes away. The more light we bring in, the more the dark will recede. This is ultimately what we want to do with all of our practices.
I hope this has been helpful. Even practicing one or two of these can make a big difference.
Thank you for reading.