Finding Your Purpose In an Ego-Driven World
We often think of Destiny as a path we must find so we can begin living our life as it should be. We think if we get clear enough, we will see exactly what it is we are meant to be doing and this will be the ultimate key to our happiness. We look at others and think they have it all figured out. We sign up for classes and read books to figure out our talent and niche.
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Then, we find ourselves overwhelmed with even more questions. There is a feeling of being lost somehow. Surely, this life I am living cannot be it. If so, why do I feel so empty and unfulfilled?
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I am happy enough with my family but I dread going to work every day. I would also like to feel the way I used to when I had passion in my life. Is it possible to live a fulfilled life of passion even now? How do you get there? It is actually quite simple
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What Defines You?
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We all have an image of ourselves. It is quite automatic for most of us. We have an idea of who we are at work, around our family, on vacation, how much income we usually make and how we will feel in certain situations.
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We have preconceived ideas of our normal body weight, our level of professional success, capacity for intimacy and income cap. We will even habitually decide ahead of time how our day will go and how it will leave us feeling.
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We have a story of who we are and what our life looks like. We repeat this story to ourselves repeatedly reconfirming the habits and nuances that define us.
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It is like a book we read to our inner child every night before bed. It becomes the basis of how we live our lives. We tell ourselves such an elaborate plot that we begin to believe it with all of our heart, even if it is not the story we ultimately want.
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Then, we forget that we have a choice. We forget that we were the original story teller. We forget that we can decide to tell any story we wish.
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The good news is our subconscious mind can not tell the difference between fact or fiction. It only knows what we repeatedly tell it. If we continually repeat our old story over and over in our mind, it will begin to act as if it is real.
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It will create scenarios that perfectly match this story in our life circumstances. Then, when we see proof that this is our story, we tell it with even more conviction.
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Then, the plot plays out continuously in our everyday affairs. Instead, how can we use this to our advantage?
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Ask yourself this, “what is defining me?” “What story am I telling my mind?” Pay attention to your thoughts. What language are you using in your constant inner dialog? How is this showing up in your life? What results are you getting? Does the story correlate with the end results? Would you like different results?
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My previous story went something like this:
I am a night owl so don’t talk to me until 10 a.m. Then, I have to have my coffee before I can function. My mind is just foggy and I am grumpy. that is just the way things are. I have a hard time losing weight and have tried everything.
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I will just have to fast or do something extreme in order to get results and my workout has to be 2 hours. I am just not like other people. I rise to the top in most jobs I have but I have to work harder than most people and I normally have to do work I dread.
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I usually make a little more money than what goes out for bills and that is only when I am working a lot of hours. Otherwise, I just break even, but I am willing to do what I have to do.
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You get the point. The thing I realized is that my story about myself was an exact match to the results I was getting in my life. This was an old story that I’ve been telling myself for a long time and I was sick of the results. It is a no brainer.
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I decided to deliberately change my story in order to get different results. I also started looking at my actions as well.
This is my new story:
I am willing to get up early and get moving right away. I will feed my mind with gratitude and what I actually want in order to get the results I prefer. It is more important for me to feed my body with healthy energy giving food that will ignite my metabolism and fat burning capabilities.
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I now know that my workout can be more efficient at fat burning with less time and higher intensity. I can get faster and lasting results by being smarter not working harder.
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I am able to feel fulfilled and still have a healthy body at my ideal weight. I am now able to earn 6 figures working online doing what I love.
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I also realized I can feel great in the morning. I can be full of energy and rejuvenated when I choose to. My ego did not like this one bit, but I took action anyway. The ego was not getting the results I wanted and I was not willing to listen to that voice any longer.
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Steps to Success To Jumpstart Your New Story:
1. Get Up Early and Start Moving Right Away (Walking, Biking, Jogging, or Swimming) Not only does this speed up your metabolism but it resets your state for a more positive day.
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2. Say Everything You Are Grateful For as You Move
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3. Say to Yourself, ” I am so happy and grateful that I have…” Fill in your desires
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4. State an Intention For How You Would Like Your Day to Go: “I am easily creating being pleasantly surprised around love and $ today”
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5. Create a Mantra: “Everyday in every way I am stronger and stronger” “I see myself making $100,000” “I get sexier every day in every way” Repeat these as you exercise.
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This is designed to reprogram your mind by replacing the old story thoughts and anchoring the new vision into your mind and body. It is so much more than just mindlessly spouting out affirmations.
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The body is in action and you are putting your whole being in a new state with new thoughts. This forms a new association with your new vision.
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It is nearly impossible to stay grumpy when your body is getting oxygen and your mind is being fed with mental nourishment. I was unable to do it.
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I have given a few examples, but you can customize them to you. Really ask yourself what you want. Getting clear about our dreams is essential. Then, we can start rewriting our story.
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You may be experiencing some resistance right now, thinking this is just a bunch of positive thinking crap. I know, I had the same thoughts until I was willing to get real with myself.
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If your story and actions have gotten you the results you have right now, do you see how our inner story influences our lives? Would it be worth it to at least experiment with a new story?What do you have to lose? What do you have to gain?
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So now let’s talk about purpose. What is your life purpose?
5 Questions to Ask
1. What did you want to be when you were younger?
2. How have you influenced people already?
3. What do you naturally do?
4. If you could do anything and not fail, what would it be?
5. What would you do for free if you were already rich beyond your wildest dreams?
6. What can you not wait to do when you get off work?
7. What can you lose yourself in and do all day?
8. What do you wake up thinking about?
9. How can you do this for others and have them pay you for it?
10. What do others most frequently ask you to do for them?
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Service to Others- Bigger Vision
When our vision grows big enough, we see opportunities to help higher numbers of people. Our dream can become a global mission. This is when we are truly tapping into full potential.
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Although, even the smallest act done with a fully open heart can have a massive impact. We want to see the biggest possible vision for our purpose and take action immediately.
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Ask yourself, “what can I do right now with what I currently have that impact the most people?” These are the types of questions that can truly ignite our creative fire of purpose inside.
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The answer might not come right away and that is okay. The important thing is to keep asking these questions. This will enable your mind to get busy on a new and more empowering story.
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Brainstorming
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The more we ask questions and deliberately brainstorm, the more we tap into our resources. Take time each morning to write down 3 ways to make money. You will be amazed at how many ideas you come up with.
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If you do this each day by the end of the month you will have a huge list of ideas and resources to implement if you choose.
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It is a great way to change your thinking to abundance and realize how much potential is readily available to you right now.
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Assume the Best Scenario
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We are often quick to make assumptions. Unfortunately, we are normally assuming the worst possible outcome. We assume that cop is going to pull us over just because he is behind us even if we aren’t doing anything wrong!
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We assume when our boss calls us in for a meeting, it must be bad news. These little habitual thoughts can easily turn into self-fulfilling prophesies which turn into a story of how unlucky we are in life.
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Make a conscious choice right now to develop the habit of assuming the very best outcome in each situation and your world will start to respond to you.
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If your mind is telling you all the reasons you can’t live the way you want or make these changes here are a few stories to debunk that self-talk.
1. Kenny Troutt, the founder of Excel Communications, paid his way through college by selling life insurance.
Troutt grew up with a bartender dad and paid for his own tuition at Southern Illinois University by selling life insurance.
2. Starbucks’ Howard Schultz grew up in a housing complex for the poor.
3. Investor Ken Langone’s parents worked as a plumber and cafeteria worker.
4. Born into poverty, Oprah Winfrey became the first African American TV correspondent in Nashville.
5. Mega-resort owner Kirk Kerkorian dropped out of school in the eighth grade to become a boxer.
6. “Blessed Teresa of Calcutta” Roman Catholic religious sister and missionary Mother Teresa survived on minimal income and food, often having to beg for funds.
7. Forever 21 founder Do Won Chang worked as a janitor, gas station attendant, and in a coffee shop when he first moved to America.
8. American author of the series “Conversations with God” Neale Donald Walsch thought his life was over when he found himself homeless, living in a tent, and recycling cans to pay for food.
9. Harold Simmons grew up in a shack with no plumbing or electricity.
10. Born on a farm, son of a butcher, and a homemaker Colonel Sanders created the Kentucky Fried Chicken fast-food chain at the age of 66.
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You Are the One That Gets to Decide Your Destiny.
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Thank you for reading.