Who Do You Think You Are?!

Our story changes again and suddenly we find life becoming more challenging when it comes to our career. Suddenly, we see ourselves as incompetent and lost. We wake up each morning and base our lives on our favorite story at that time. The truth is we are addicted to our stories and have convinced ourselves we cannot exist without them.

We could start out feeling really good about who we are in relationships until we find out our husband of 36 years has been cheating on us for most of our marriage, with our best friend. Our story can change very quickly after a blow like this. Then, we find ourselves attracting emotionally unavailable men and struggle to figure out who we have become.

 We have stories about all aspects of life and even project these stories on other people in our lives. We constantly carry stories around that attempt to define others. We don’t even realize we are doing it. Then, when they start to change into something else, we can get very annoyed because they are not fitting into the story we have for them. We decide who our spouse is and add to the list according to what story we are focused on. Here is an example. Our husband comes in and says, “I am tired and don’t feel like talking.”

We take it personally. We have been in the house all day with his kids and have things to tell him. We decide he is selfish, a terrible father, a bad lover, and inconsiderate. We start thinking maybe we can do better and begin fantasizing about that coworker that actually listened to us yesterday.

The story gets more elaborate the more we focus on it. Meanwhile, our spouse has had some dinner and a little downtime. He feels more open and wants to connect. He walks in the room and smiles at us. We sigh and stomp out of the room. Now, we are adding to the story about how everything is up to him. We talk only when he wants to talk. This story could destroy a marriage and it is not even accurate.

Even the story you had thirty seconds ago is now a lie. You could have checked your bank account three minutes ago and established that you have no money in the account. You will automatically start playing the story of being broke. Then, your mind will grab onto it and provide proof that this is the true story of most of your life. It will convince you that this is just how you are around money. It must be true because you just saw the proof in your bank account, right? Wrong. The only reason this story keeps perpetuating itself is because you keep choosing to make this your current story. Do you think this life is just happening to you?

Who are you to know what is coming to you today? Who is your mind to tell you what God/Creator/Universe has in store for you?

Is God limited? Even what happened a second ago is now an old story. Each new second is full of unlimited potential, divine power, infinite love, and the full presence of Source. You have access to all that is good right now. It can open to you with your next breath.

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Can you remember what it was like to be a child on the playground? Did you decide while you were still in the classroom exactly how recess would go? All I remember about recess was running outside and greeting the freedom. I had no idea what it would look like, but I was so excited to explore it and did to the fullest. This is how our lives are meant to be lived. We can greet every new moment with excitement and be grateful for the unlimited untapped potential. Miracles can happen in an instant.

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What stories are you carrying with you right now? What lies are you telling yourself? Is your mind spouting out thoughts regarding “real life” and “head in the clouds?” That is a popular one. Perhaps it is schooling you on the importance of always thinking logically. Let me tell you where logical thinking has led me. It has led me to many dead end jobs and a few toxic relationships. They looked really good on paper, but the actuality of these situations resulted in resentment, regret, and frustration. I learned a lot from all of them, but I can’t help but wonder if I could have been having way more fun by focusing on different stories.

Want to know where innocence and trust led me? It led me to a life I could not have imagined for myself, into living with passion, more travel, increased creativity, more self-love, healthy relationships, and several fulfilling careers.

What did I have to give up to get this? Listening to my old stories, giving energy to gossip, watching t.v., junk food, alcohol, and doubt. It is not a decision I made once, but a decision in every new moment.

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In shamanic work, we talk about Assemblage Point. This is the point we view our existence from. In certain life or spiritual shifts, our Assemblage point changes, resulting in a complete change in perspective. Have you ever been through a traumatic experience and felt like it changed you forever? Somehow you just didn’t see life in the same way. Near death experiences quite often change the A.P. dramatically. Survivors can have different personalities, new goals, and a broader vision for their lives. It can be confusing to loved ones because they do not fit in their stories anymore.